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Aug 18, 2010


Posted By Snow at 8/18/2010

Fun Baby Shower Invitation [party]
Baby hair shaving for muslims (◠v◠)

I'm tempted to give my views on some issues. But it is Ramadhan, and it is the month of restrain. Perhaps this is not the time? Or is it? والله أعلم. Yes, I prefer if I can go to my Hira Cave and contemplate fully before saying. So foremostly, I'm sorry if ever. (◠-◠)v

Well... The news is reporting about teenage pregnancies. And you know, the teaching of birds & bees. If anybody cares (ha ha, yeah I have to say that) - for me - my education is from the Quran & Hadith. Believe it or not, it's there, sweetheart. E.g: the Quran revealed you're from a sperm burst forth. ألم يك نطفة من مني يمنى [Q75:37], أفرأيتم ما تمنون [Q56:58] I can imagine the hilarity of "Mommy, what is semen burst forth." (◠v◠)

The male sperm, female egg, fertilization, fetal development in the womb, birth... way to the death. The afterlife. It's all stated in the Quran & Hadith. [QA Body | Man]

So yeah. Muslim kids should've known their body.

And when I was a child, my ustazah (teacher) did told us about puberty. It's an age when deeds start to be recorded. The sign is women has menses & men has the dream: وإذا بلغ الأطفال منكم الحلم [Q24:59]... الحلم is "dream", right? And when you reach that age, you are accountable.

..................................    mitzvah    ..................................

So yes. The Quran & Hadith do teach the birds & the bees. & the Laws.

We simply abide. Intimacy outside of marriage is wrong, even going near it is wrong. ولا تقربوا الزنا إنه كان فاحشة وساء سبيلا [Q17:32], والذين هم لفروجهم حافظون [Q70:29] Just follow it, simple as that. I read people say abstinence doesn't work - but how do a sperm meets an egg if you abstain? For assault cases - the assault is a crime - preventing it requires more than classroom education, it needs a strong justice system.

OK. So yeah do I sound like the religious zealot? Of course, muslims do have intimacy. In marriage - full of love, families & blessing. This is the right way. The wedding, gifts, celebrations. Then when the wife gave birth, her baby will be held by the father. & he will recite the azan & iqamat (call of prayer) to her/his ears. The grandparents will bumble in joyousness, "come everybody I'm giving aqiqah!" & everybody cuts strands of the baby's hair lovingly, the weight of his hair in silver is given to charity. Blessed... .:(◠v◠):. الحمد لله

Please note

Muslims have laws even in regards to the body. E.g: if one has an intimate discharge, he must bath the whole body (ghusl) before performing the daily prayers. وإن كنتم جنبا فاطهروا [Q 5:6], إن الصلاة تنهى عن الفحشاء و المنكر [Q29:45] Thus ever since puberty, even as a teen, there is an envelope of purity - under Allah's Care, may we be pure just as Prophet Joseph.

Surah An-Noor (The Light) which revealed about intimacies - also revealed about light brightening the darkness. Prophet Joseph did fear he'll be among the ignorant if he succumbed. وإلا تصرف عني كيدهن أصب إليهن وأكن من الجاهلين [Q12:33] the light must conquer the heart


6 comments on "Mitzvah"

anisa of khalil on Aug 18, 2010, 11:30:00 AM said...

When Rasulullah (PBUH) was born, his grandfather brought him to the Kaabah & named him Muhammad. It was a great happiness. He didn't have a father, simply bcoz his father died when he was in the womb. I imagine Rasulullah (PBUH) understands what its like to be an orphan.

LM on Nov 10, 2012, 5:42:00 AM said...

The way for intimacy is within marriage. It is the best and a great blessing: [Q30:21]
[1] Should a baby is born there is a father to give his name & care for him. This is unlike the free way, where the guy can deny & abandon them.
[2] For young couples, they can choose to have contraception too.
[3] A faithful married couple with no STD can't transmit it. This is the most safe.

So, everyone. We deserve the best! [Q25:74] ♥

For assault cases, of course the victim is innocent. Even if difficult, her perseverance to remain on the right is proven. & by this, I mean taking care of herself & the baby. She does not have to marry her attacker [Q 24:26, 4:19] - he should be prosecuted. We should cherish this perseverance. & after difficulty, there's always relief. ماشاء الله

Snow on Jan 14, 2016, 5:13:00 PM said...

Regarding assault - it can cause lifetime trauma, humiliation, disease, disability, even death; as well as destabilize the very foundation of society (the family). The criminals exhibit no compassion in their attacks, nor will to safeguard life. Their crime is grave, with deep repercussions - it must be vanquished.

In memory of the beautiful Delhi girl & so many others of all ages who have passed away. ♥ May they inspire the protection of women & justice against criminals. Rape is a grave crime, it must be vanquished. & every soul will be recompensed, the fairest reward is in the hereafter.

Snow on Jan 18, 2016, 1:25:00 PM said...

For cases of children birthed out of wedlock, I have to say, I understand that it's not for the authorities to write the father's name on the birth certificate - simply because the father is unknown. Even if the mother married someone, there is uncertainty that he is truly the father, thus it is not within their right to state the father's name.

Proving requires further procedures, which of course takes more effort.

In my view, for cases other than assault; it is the parents themselves who should bear the consequences of their own actions - that it is they themselves who brought upon this sadness. While the child is innocent & her perseverance is cherished, it is not something anyone wishes to go through. So society should NOT pursue this way. The best way is within marriage, and everyone should pursue the best for their own happiness.

Please prefer the best, and open a new chapter in life #PreferTheBest
& sweethearts, never lose hope in Allah's SWT Mercy ♥ mend and heal

Snow on Apr 9, 2017, 3:55:00 PM said...

Regarding marriage, a man only marries a woman under the covenant of Allah SWT. When he commits to it, it is his duty to love, protect and support his wife. So yes, marriage is a great responsibility sealed with love - it is a husband's duty to love, protect and support his wife. ❤

الرجل راع على أهل بيت
the man is a guardian of his family

لتسكنوا إليها وجعل بينكم مودة ورحمة
that you may find tranquility in them, and He placed between you affection and mercy

وعاشروهن بالمعروف
and live with them in kindness

استوصوا بالنساء خيرا
treat women kindly

ترى المؤمنين في تراحمهم وتوادهم وتعاطفهم كمثل الجسد إذا اشتكى عضوا تداعى له سائر جسده بالسهر والحمى
You see the believers as regards their being merciful among themselves and showing love among themselves and being kind, resembling one body, so that, if any part of the body is not well then the whole body shares the sleeplessness and fever with it

With this in mind. Now, regarding marriage at an early age. Perhaps in ancient times it is acceptable to be married right after puberty - the age when one is committed to the mitzvot (Bar Mitzvah). At this age, the body is capable to reproduce, it is not a child. But yes they are still young. Still, age is not a measure of wisdom, one can be wiser than someone decades older. So as to enter marriage, when one is wise and ready, they may enter it with mercy, wisdom and readiness.

And may I state again, a man only marries a woman under the covenant of Allah SWT. It is a great commitment entered with mercy, wisdom and readiness.

A mitzvot to be safeguarded. ☆

Snow on Apr 9, 2017, 3:56:00 PM said...

As man is a protector not an abuser - marital abuse is forbidden
لا يجلد أحدكم امرأته جلد none of you should flog his wife

Peace be upon you

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