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Baby hair shaving for muslims (◠v◠)
I'm tempted to give my views on some issues. But it is Ramadhan, and it is the month of restrain. Perhaps this is not the time? Or is it? والله أعلم. Yes, I prefer if I can go to my Hira Cave (قلم qalam) and contemplate fully before saying. So foremostly, I'm sorry if ever. (◠-◠)v
Well ... The news is reporting about teenage pregnancies. And you know, the teaching of birds & bees. If anybody cares (ha ha, yeah I have to say that) - for me - my education is from the Quran & Hadith. Believe it or not, it's there, sweetheart. E.g: the Quran revealed you're from a sperm burst forth. ألم يك نطفة من مني يمنى [Q75:37], أفرأيتم ما تمنون [Q56:58] I can imagine the hilarity of "Mommy, what is semen burst forth." (◠v◠)
The male sperm, female egg, fertilization, fetal development in the womb, birth ... way to the death. The afterlife. It's all stated in the Quran & Hadith. [QA Body | Man]
So yeah. Muslim kids should've known their body.
And when I was a child, my ustazah (teacher) did told us about puberty. It's an age when deeds start to be recorded. The sign is women has menses & men has the dream: وإذا بلغ الأطفال منكم الحلم [Q24:59] ... الحلم is "dream", right? And when you reach that age, you are accountable.
الزاني لا ينكح
إلا زانية أو مشركة
والزانية لا ينكحها
إلا زان أو مشرك
وحرم ذلك على المؤمنين
[Q24:3]
لا يزني الزاني حين
يزني وهو مؤمن
[SB8.81.773]
the light marks
the believer (إيمان)
So yes. The Quran & Hadith do teach the birds & the bees. & the Laws.إلا زانية أو مشركة
والزانية لا ينكحها
إلا زان أو مشرك
وحرم ذلك على المؤمنين
[Q24:3]
لا يزني الزاني حين
يزني وهو مؤمن
[SB8.81.773]
the light marks
the believer (إيمان)
We simply abide. Intimacy outside of marriage is wrong, even going near it is wrong. ولا تقربوا الزنا إنه كان فاحشة وساء سبيلا [Q17:32], والذين هم لفروجهم حافظون [Q70:29] Just follow it, simple as that. I read people say abstinence doesn't work - but how do a sperm meets an egg if you abstain? For assault cases - it is a crime - preventing it requires more than education, it needs a strong justice system.
OK. So yeah do I sound like the religious zealot? Of course, muslims do have intimacy. In marriage - full of love, families & blessing. فاظفر بذات الدين [SB7.62.27 | spirit] This is the right way. The wedding, gifts, celebrations. Then when the wife gave birth, her baby will be held by the father. & he will recite the azan & iqamat (call of prayer) to her/his ears. The grandparents will bumble in joyousness, "come everybody I'm giving aqiqah!" & everybody cuts strands of the baby's hair lovingly, the weight of his hair in silver is given to charity. Blessed ... .:(◠v◠):. الحمد لله
Muslims have laws even in regards to the body. E.g: if one has an intimate discharge, he must bath the whole body (ghusl) before performing the daily prayers. وإن كنتم جنبا فاطهروا [Q5:6], إن الصلاة تنهى عن الفحشاء و المنكر [Q29:45] Thus ever since puberty, even as a teen, there is an envelope of purity - this is faith when its delight enters the hearts بشاشته القلوب and mixes with them completely.
Under Allah's Care, may we be pure just as Prophet Joseph.
Surah An Noor (The Light) which revealed about intimacies - also revealed about light brightening the darkness. Prophet Joseph did fear he'll be among the ignorant if he succumbed. وإلا تصرف عني كيدهن أصب إليهن وأكن من الجاهلين [Q12:33] ❤ the light must conquer the heart
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When Rasulullah (PBUH) was born, his grandfather brought him to the Kaabah & named him Muhammad. It was a great happiness. He didn't have a father, simply bcoz his father died when he was in the womb. I imagine Rasulullah (PBUH) understands what its like to be an orphan.
The way for intimacy is within marriage. It is the best and a great blessing: [Q30:21]
[1] Should a baby is born there is a father to give his name & care for him. This is unlike the free way, where the guy can deny & abandon them.
[2] For young couples, they can choose to have contraception too.
[3] A faithful married couple with no STD can't transmit it. This is the most safe.
So, everyone. We deserve the best! [Q25:74] ♥
For assault cases, of course the victim is innocent. Even if difficult, her perseverance to remain on the right is proven. & by this, I mean taking care of herself & the baby. She does not have to marry her attacker [Q 24:26, 4:19] - he should be prosecuted. We should cherish this perseverance. & after difficulty, there's always relief. ماشاء الله
Regarding assault - it can cause lifetime trauma, humiliation, disease, disability, even death; as well as destabilize the very foundation of society (the family). The criminals exhibit no compassion in their attacks, nor will to safeguard life. Their crime is grave, with deep repercussions - it must be vanquished.
In memory of the beautiful Delhi girl & so many others of all ages who have passed away. ♥ May they inspire the protection of women & justice against criminals. Rape is a grave crime, it must be vanquished. & every soul will be recompensed, the fairest reward is in the hereafter.
For cases of children birthed out of wedlock, I have to say, I understand that it's not for the authorities to write the father's name on the birth certificate - simply because the father is unknown. Even if the mother married someone, there is uncertainty that he is truly the father, thus it is not within their right to state the father's name.
Proving requires further procedures, which of course takes more effort.
In my view, for cases other than assault; it is the parents themselves who should bear the consequences of their own actions - that it is they themselves who brought upon this sadness. While the child is innocent & her perseverance is cherished, it is not something anyone wishes to go through. So society should NOT pursue this way. The best way is within marriage, and everyone should pursue the best for their own happiness.
Please prefer the best, and open a new chapter in life #PreferTheBest
& sweethearts, never lose hope in Allah's SWT Mercy ♥ mend and heal
Regarding marriage, a man only marries a woman under the covenant of Allah SWT. When he commits to it, it is his duty to love, protect and support his wife. So yes, marriage is a great responsibility sealed with love - it is a husband's duty to love, protect and support his wife. ❤
الرجل راع على أهل بيت
the man is a guardian of his family
لتسكنوا إليها وجعل بينكم مودة ورحمة
that you may find tranquility in them, and He placed between you affection and mercy
وعاشروهن بالمعروف
and live with them in kindness
استوصوا بالنساء خيرا
treat women kindly
ترى المؤمنين في تراحمهم وتوادهم وتعاطفهم كمثل الجسد إذا اشتكى عضوا تداعى له سائر جسده بالسهر والحمى
You see the believers as regards their being merciful among themselves and showing love among themselves and being kind, resembling one body, so that, if any part of the body is not well then the whole body shares the sleeplessness and fever with it
With this in mind. Now, regarding marriage at an early age. Perhaps in ancient times it is acceptable to be married right after puberty - the age when one is committed to the mitzvot (Bar Mitzvah). At this age, the body is capable to reproduce, it is NOT A CHILD. But yes they are still young. Still, age is not a measure of wisdom, one can be wiser than someone decades older. So as to enter marriage, when one is wise and ready, they may enter it with mercy, wisdom and readiness.
حتى إذا بلغوا النكاح فإن آنستم منهم رشدا
until they reach marriageable age, then if you perceive in them sound judgement
And may I state again, a man only marries a woman under the covenant of Allah SWT. It is a great commitment entered with mercy, wisdom and readiness.
A mitzvot to be safeguarded. ☆
Regarding the ancient bride constantly referred - pls remember that SHE IS OF NOBILITY. She is like a princess, taught with scholarship and strengthened with her family tribe's nobility. Where upon the men actually regards her to the level of their mother أمهاتهم.
Even when she is not destined to give birth, she is valued for her knowledge of The Law. واذكرن ما يتلى في بيوتكن من آيات الله والحكمة And remember what is recited in your houses of the Verses of Allah and Wisdom. So recite o Ahlul Bait of The Law, and safeguard it in your House. The beauty of this is, the men listens and accepted the commands of a woman, even when she is younger. It is she who flew The Standard. #Rayyah
As the women (the Ahlul Bait) are safeguardian of The Law. So is a child that is Ibn Abbas - the ancestor of the Abbassid. They build the House Of Wisdom, where Al Khawarizmi became the Father of Algebra. اللهم علمه الحكمة O Allah, teach him wisdom.
If anyone are yet to reach this standard, it is not within The Standard.
As man is a protector not an abuser - marital abuse is forbidden
لا يجلد أحدكم امرأته جلد none of you should flog his wife
Regarding the "believers whom your right hands possess", they are still married with gifts in purity. There is still marriage between them, and accorded all the rights with it.
ومن لم يستطع منكم طولا أن ينكح المحصنات المؤمنات
فمن ما ملكت أيمانكم من فتياتكم المؤمنات
والله أعلم بإيمانكم بعضكم من بعض
فانكحوهن بإذن أهلهن وآتوهن أجورهن بالمعروف محصنات غير مسافحات ولا متخذات أخدان
فإذا أحصن فإن أتين بفاحشة فعليهن نصف ما على المحصنات من العذاب
ذلك لمن خشي العنت منكم وأن تصبروا خير لكم والله غفور رحيم
If any of you have not the means wherewith to wed free believing women, they may wed believing girls from among those whom your right hands possess. And Allah has full knowledge about your faith. You are of one another.
Wed them with the leave of their owners, and give them their dowers, according to what is reasonable. They should be chaste, not lustful, nor taking paramours. When they are taken in wedlock, if they fall into shame, their punishment is half that for free women.
This (permission) is for those among you who fear sin, but it is better for you that you practice self restraint. And Allah is Oft-forgiving, Most Merciful. [Q4:25]
Still it is better to educate and free them first, as it is better to marry a free believing woman.
من كانت له جارية فعالها فأحسن إليها ثم أعتقها وتزوّجها كان له أجران
He who has a slave girl and educates and treats her nicely and then manumits and marries her, will get a double reward [SB3.46.720]
Please remember, unlike in the days of ignorance, there is accountability in caring for slaves, as they are considered brothers under one's command. There is responsibility in caring for their well being.
وبالوالدين إحسانا وبذي القربى ... وما ملكت أيمانكم ۗ إن الله لا يحب من كان مختالا فخور
And be good to parents, relatives ... and those whom your right hands possess. Surely Allah does not like whoever is arrogant, boastful [Q4:36]
إخوانكم خولكم جعلهم الله تحت أيديكم
فمن كان أخوه تحت يديه فليطعمه ما يأكل، وليكسه مما يلبس
ولا تكلفوهم ما يغلبهم ، فإن كلفتموهم فأعينوهم
Your slaves are your brothers and Allah has put them under your command. So whoever has a brother under his command should feed him of what he eats and dress him of what he wears. Do not ask them (slaves) to do things beyond their capacity (power) and if you do so, then help them. [SB1.2.30]
So in essence, it is easier to have none. It is encouraged to free them.
فك رقبة It is the freeing of a slave [Q90:13]
Even from before, Joseph himself was a slave, he is sincere and purified المخلصين
كذلك لنصرف عنه السوء والفحشاء إنه من عبادنا المخلصين
And thus We avert from him evil and immorality, indeed he was of Our servants, sincere and purified [Q12:24]
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